I broke up with my ex ("X" from now on) a few times over the last month but agreed to get back together for various reasons. I could write 10 pages on how truly fucked up she is, but I'll just briefly mention, she's got very deep and serious issues (and one's that up until recently I've been very sympathetic to). She's an only child raised by an insanely controlling, paranoid-delusional mom, in a locked-in gated house, and she's been abused as a child.
She was so horrible to me one night a few weeks ago that I tried to end it once and for all as we sat in her car in front of my apartment. Just as I was about to open the door, she it the gas. (And again at the red light when I tried to jump out). Finally the next light I escaped, she got out after me leaving the keys in the car, she broke down crying on the sidewalk at my feet, I couldn't get her to budge so I said finally that we would go somewhere together and talk, car got stolen with all her stuff... not wanting to abandon her after this I got back together with her, figuring I'd at least stay with her until she was in a stable place again regarding her lost car, IDs, laptop, iPhone, etc.
AND, I gave her my Samsung tablet so she'd at least have access to the internet in the days immediately following. It wasn't long before major fights continued and there was a period where I refused to take her calls or communicate with her.
One night about a week and a half ago I was online late at night and I got a strange message in gmail that my account recovery info was changed. Well the message wasn't strange (and I quickly responded to it and changed the gmail password) but what was strange was that the message immediately disappeared from my inbox without a trace (bot in "trash" either).
At some point I noticed my skype password was changed and I regained access to that. And FB was changed once or twice where I was able to get back in. BUT a couple of days ago, on the 21st, she called me while I was drinking in a bar with friends, and I foolishly answered it. She threatened me numerous times with how she's gonna ruin my life and I told her in no uncertain terms "I'm not interested in your threats. Do whatever you need to do".
While I was still in the bar she managed to get into my facebook account, remove all the email addresses associated with it, create a new fake email address to associate with it, and remove phone numbers and other security verification info.
When I got back to my friend's place that evening I tried to log in and couldn't. There was a verification procedure I could follow but in the end FB said I'd need to wait 24 hours before gaining access again and te page would be down in the meantime. I figured, OK I can deal with it further tomorrow when I'm sober.
But the following day she had already gotten back in and posted personal and fairly explicit photos on my profile. I tried again to verify my identity with FB and again they accepted it but said I'd need to wait 24 hours before logging in again. Five minutes later she was back in.
I went to the police and filed a report but the police officer (a nice guy who genuinely wanted to help) really had nothing to say about the cyber stuff. (There was other real-life stalking going on as well). I got home and she had posted even worse video.
At this point, when I tried to do the "forgot password" verification, I only had 2 choices: either reset my PW through the fake email address that she created, or I could choose 3 friends who would be sent a code, who I could then call, get the code to provide to FB, which again locked me out for 24 hours. She was back in the next minute. And this is what I did all night. I have wonderful friends who took it very seriously and immediately provided the codes, but at some point X thought to unfriend some of them. (probably coincidentally, not because of the verification process). In any case I would provide codes, page went down, she was back in the next minute, wash rinse repeat about 5 or 6 times.
At some point FB no longer offered this other procedure and it was only through the email that she controlled that one could verify their identity. Holy fuck! I was losing my mind.
At this point there's nothing you can do. Absolutely nothing. After clicking "forgot password" there's the option of reset through that one email address or you can click that you no longer have access to that account, at which point FB simply says "sorry, you need access to a registered email to gain access to your account", and there's a link to help menus and stuff. None of the help menus, or various reports will get you anywhere I've tried them all.
(shit, apparently she's back in my account now unfriending more of my friends who I'm in contact with).
Anyway, there is absolutely no mechanism at this point to regain control. None. This is simply unbelievable. There are no email addresses or phone numbers or ways to report this.
The Samsung had my email password saved and from that I guess she got into my other accounts. I had my deleted mail recovered yesterday and I saw everything she did. About 15 or 16 emails in all where she did every step. I called a lawyer who is on the case but there's nothing he can do to get any immediate action. He has sent a letter to the offices in Dublin and I think contacted the police, but she could very well have control of my account for weeks.
This is truly a nightmare.
Anyone know if what she did is actually illegal in Germany, and what if so how is it even punishable?
Source: http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=676540
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